Don’t You…

…Forget About Me

As of yesterday, I had no clue what I was going to post today, and even thought, maybe I would skip this week.

**DISCLAIMER: After reading today’s post, you might agree, I should have shelved it. 😉

The NEW cover of Being There.

Being There

As most of you know, I published my first novel, Being There, this past July. Before that, over the last year and half, I’ve been reading…quite a bit. Enough to annoy most people, but not as much as some other people I know. (You know who you are.)

Anyhoo, as an avid reader and lover of authors, I disappeared into the stories and had mad-crushes on these fabulous ladies’ brains. (No offense to men, I just haven’t read any book, as of late, by men.) It was easy for me to imagine that the stories they were writing came easily to them, and they worked some sweet magic to make them come alive in my head. Oh yeah, and that they lived a dream life.

Cut to present day…the one where I have written the aforementioned book, and am working on another:

What I assumed is “typical” writer behavior, influence, motivation or style is now completely out the window, because I see things from the other side. BUT, I’m only speaking from my personal experience, and will not assume this is the case for other writers.

You see, I have disappeared, rarely seeing the light of day, except when it is actually necessary. I could quite possibly be a vampire, if I knew anything about being one.

So what does this all mean; what is my point? Well, let me give you a rundown of a “Day in the Life of TK.” Are you ready? Okay, here it goes:

I get up (Thank God!) and get the kids up and out of the house. I rush out to the gym (if I make it) and come home and write. I try to eat some lunch followed by another writing attempt. Kids come home and we rush to do homework before extracurriculars begin. Drop off begins for the sports, only to turn around for pick up. Come home, eat dinner, get kids in bed, followed by a third and final writing attempt, which ends up being mostly Facebook fun. Sprinkle in some texts, the occasional lunch dates, and there you have it. 

So, A Day in the Life of TK; uneventful and yet, so much is left undone. I have to ask…did you notice anything missing here in this list of things I do? Well, if you didn’t I won’t point it out. I pretty much stay home all day, and if I don’t leave the house, guess what….I get to hang in my PJs all day. Not so much bragging about it, because, it’s cool, but only for a short time. I have some writer friends who, along with myself, could very likely form a club where the one thing that doesn’t get taken care of, is ourselves. But then I’d have to add to that that our kids probably do a fair amount complaining, spouses get a little annoyed and don’t get me started on the house.

Ultimately, we take care of all these things, but the one thing neglected is us.

Exhibit A
I walked into my kitchen and it looked like it still contained 3 nights worth of dishes and crap. It was a mess, and that’s putting it mildly. At this point, I realized, okay….I’ve got some things to take care of. Don’t believe me? See Exhibit A

Exhibit A

Exhibit A ~ Before & After

I can’t show you Exhibit B, because, that would be me. OMG…I could use a little more of a schedule in my day in order to actually get some me time in. (Writing doesn’t count, it’s work because I have to use my brain.) I dubbed myself Queen of Procrastination, long ago; so I’ll get around to taking that shower, changing my clothes, coloring my hair and putting on makeup, at some point. In the meantime, I have too many thoughts running in my head that I am desperate to write down.

So there ya have it. A blog post that doesn’t really have anything to do with anything, but it’s my world today. Maybe some of my writer friend will weigh in with their thoughts on this??? And just in case you were wondering, I’m not at all complaining!! I’m doing something that I have wanted to do for so long. This life is truly a dream come true and I wouldn’t trade it. 😉 Thanks for checking in a seeing what random thing I had to say today. And check back tomorrow…another Author Spotlight.


~Don’t You (Forget About Me) Simple Minds….this just makes me laugh all around! It’s just too fitting 😎

With a Little Help from My Friends…

Crazy things!

I started this blog post yesterday, thinking about everything that’s happened in the last 4 weeks. Scratch that, everything that has happened in the last five months. I was writing about friends, and how amazing people are. Well, here…. this I what I had started (sorry, it’s a rambling mess):

Friends come in all shapes, sizes, background and distances. I have some amazing people in my life and I feel incredibly blessed to have them. I have never been one to seek out friendship, I prefer it come organically.

I’m sure you are asking, “What is with this random train of thought?” Allow me to explain….

There are few people who know me as well as some of my closest friends, and even fewer who know me as well as my family. I do believe that my husband knows me (good and bad…and there’s a lot!)  better than almost anyone…which is nice, since I plan on keeping him around forever. Admittedly, there were only a few people who knew I was writing a book. I had my own little cheering section behind me – words, title and synopsis, unseen. They were simply excited to see me do something I always wanted to do.

Jeez, I still haven’t gotten to the point….

I love each and every one of those people who were so inspiring. Super awesome people!

In the last 4 weeks, I have had the pleasure of meeting some other equally awesome people, and by “meeting” them, I mean chatting, emailing, texting. These are other writers and readers. Some have read my book and have encouraged me on. Others haven’t read, but understand the anxiety, excitement and time that goes into the writing. I get to share pieces of myself with people I have never met in person, and there is something pretty cool about that. My newest friend, is a fellow writer Kimberly Stedronsky. OMG….so happy to be able to chat with this chick! She has more experience in the writing world than I do, but she shares the same fears and enthusiasm as me.

This is where I left off for the day. Then, the strangest (awesome) thing happened…writer, Madeline Sheehan, saw a need to create a space by writers/for writers. A place to cheer, commiserate and rally…and just listen to each other. Kimberly send me the invite and I’m so glad she did! ( 😉 Nice looking out chica!) It’s a relief to know that you are not the only one(s) who are terrified to put yourself out there. I know that’s a “duh” comment, but seriously, we are talking seasoned pros with numerous titles to their name, who still get nervous! I stayed up WAY longer than I should have just reading, laughing and thinking about everything that people said. (I think my eyes are puffy today.)

So I guess, in the end, my point was this: If there is something you want to do, do it. The unknown is scary and exciting, but you’ll never know you can do it if you never try. And if you’re lucky, you’ll have people standing beside you, who love you, pushing you forward to help you succeed. And maybe, just maybe you’ll make some wonderful friends/mentors along the way who can show you the ropes.


😎 Guess you can tell what I was listening to when I wrote this. I feel like I should be singing in a bar with a bunch of friends. (The Beetles) ❤

Been a While….


I wrote this. Written by me. How many ways is there to say this same thing???

As of today, I have officially, published my first book. It’s now live on Amazon, which makes me nervous.

I’ve always admired those who make the leap to put their heart and soul out there on full display…but I don’t have that feeling for myself. It doesn’t feel real, and even seems a little strange to refer to myself as a writer. I’m not sure if/when that feeling will change, but if it does, I’ll let you know.

I don’t even think I can say or think it without making a face. 

I have thanked the people who helped and encouraged me along the way, but I don’t know if it’s enough. I have been so blessed to have my own private cheering section, the loudest and most prominent of which have been my daughters. They want to read my book…but I won’t let them…and they have asked me everyday, “how’s your book going, mom?”

Yesterday was a big day in my house because I had to upload the file (which is a painful process – at least for me), so I was stuck at my desk, in my awful chair, for six hours. SIX HOURS! But my girls spoiled me, making me iced tea (just the way I like it) and bringing me a cute snack. When my husband came home, he insisted we go out to dinner to celebrate. What I love is that he’s not celebrating my success as a writer, he’s celebrating my success on completing a life-long dream. So whatever happens with this, I am so very happy to have done something I’ve only dreamed of doing.

If you decide to read it, I hope you like it. If you like it, I hope you tell someone else. If you don’t like it, I understand, not everyone is going to, and that’s okay. I just hope that if you don’t like it, that if nothing else, you can say, “It’s well-written, but it’s just not my thing.” Haha. 

Anyway, thanks for reading this post…if you did. I’m tired, delirious even, so I’m going to try to wake myself up. Have a great day!!

One item scratched off the bucket list….a million more to go!







So, yesterday was my bday!

Was I happy about it? NO

Did it happen anyway? Yup!

So, I decided that YESTERDAY, my b-day is my “New Year.” So resolutions be damned…I’m making b-day resolutions. Okay, and those are pretty much the same as my “other” resolutions…so nothing changes.

I got lots of Facebook love, texts from family & friends and some entertaining phone calls. A few things made my day complete:

  1. A story written by my daughter
  2. A song sung to me, and written by my other daughter
  3. Live & Die by the Avett Brothers (It’s my song of the day) on HEAVY rotation in my car & on my computer
  4. An email from Colleen Hoover 🙂


The highlight of my evening ended with a family dinner, where they loudly…embarrassed me by singing Happy Birthday to me.

  • A-I HATE being sung to in public…on my birthday. HATE IT! HATE IT! HATE IT! (but I will totally do it to someone else)
  • B-The restaurant is not a place where they sing to you. – Get it?!

Not only did they sing, but then proceeded to LOUDLY roasted me by making fun of my two vices: Reading & Working out. My husband commenting how he can’t complain about my reading all the time because I will likely kick is ass. I was laughing hysterically the whole time, completely RED-faced! But it was fun, and I loved every minute. Even when he outed me that I am working on writing my own book. (This is something that I have said I wanted to do, but not told that I am actively doing). Well, if that doesn’t light a fire under you, nothing will. Especially when others, not a part of my table, overheard. i.e. the waiter.

So I declare it now, whether anything ever comes of it. I, Tonya, AM writing a book, that may or may not be good, and may or may not ever be read by anyone other than me. 

Well, anyway, that was my 35th. Good times! I may be 35, but I still feel 25, and HOPEFULLY look 30?


So Long 2012…

I don’t know about you, but for me, 2012 has flown past. It’s been full of disappointment, inspiration and hopefully drive, drive to be and do something better.

I have been disappointed by the human nature this year. Whether they have been persons close to me who have disappointed (and they have), or these horrible stories you hear on the news (and they are vile), there is hate, evil and viciousness all around us. When it comes to the ones you personally know, you tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, and when they fall short, it’s hard to overlook. I know I’m not better, I’m sure I fall short in the eyes of those I cherish, that’s tough to swallow. While people have constantly showed their shortcoming, others have stepped up and completely surprised me with their compassion and friendship. These are the ones that I am so grateful for…the ones who matter.

I have been inspired…so so inspired this year! It’s been a while since I have felt this way, and I will ride it while I can!! A friend of mine and I share similar tastes in books, so we have our own little book club, just the two of us. It’s stupid, but fun, and we’re dorks, so we don’t care! I have never read so much in my life, and I love it! It was during my reading binge that I stumbled upon Colleen Hoover’s Slammed series. I fell in love with the books, but it also reignited my desire to write. I have written more in the last 3 months than I have since college, (Does that count?!). I am so grateful to her talent and imagination, because it has truly been an inspiration for me.

My daughter has asked me numerous times this year what her “purpose” on this earth is. That’s a heavy question to face as an adult, and here is my 10-year-old asking, yikes! While she has her life ahead of her to figure it out, I’m at a crossroads in mine where I have to decide what comes next. It’s overwhelming to think of all the possibilities, but the one thing I know for certain, I may fail in trying, but just the trying will be my biggest success going forward.

So I’m excited about 2013. Not excited about my birthday in 10 days…UGH!, but I am excited to see where it takes me. I have an amazingly supportive husband, who quite frankly thinks I can do anything I want to do, so I’ll give it a go. I don’t like “New Years Resolutions,” they just wait to mock you when they are unfulfilled. However…I’m going to set a 2013 “Goal,” or maybe “Goals…” here it goes:

  1. Finally sit down and write my book that I have wanted to write forever. No intention to be published, but to just finally do it.
  2. Volunteer with the elderly. I LOVE old people. They are so full of magic and history, they are link to the past I so want to know about.
  3. Continue working out. It’s so cheesy to say that, but it has cleared my mind of crap, and given me the desire to do more…and even a bit of therapy for me. (sledge hammer to a tire…LOVE!)
  4. FINALLY get on a plane to visit another country. That terrifies me…so not a good flyer! But I need to do it!

So….that’s all I can think of at the moment…on very little sleep. But I figure if I put it out there, then maybe I’m accountable to someone/something other than myself.

BTW….some of my FAVORITE sites of 2012:
Good Reads – Lots of awesome books to read…so many I can’t read enough!
Colleen Hoover – Amazing writer! Witty blog posts! What else do you need?
The Better Man Project – Just…wow…very inspiring!
NWSL – My daughters love soccer, and I love anyone who inspires my girls!


Woke Up…

So, this morning I woke up and continued my everyday routine…make coffee, get the kids up and check my email. While sitting here, I couldn’t figure out what it was I was feeling. I’m not sick, I’m not tired and then I realized, I’m happy.

This overwhelmingly happy feeling, okay, maybe not happy, but content feeling surprised me. Perhaps I am just in a good place today. I know that my life is not perfect, and I’m happy with that. I know that people in my life are not who I want them to be, and I’m happy with that. I realize that people I consider close are not who they portray themselves to be, and yet, I’m still happy. Despite the heaping amounts of disappointment that sometimes surrounds me, I am still incredibly happy (or content) today. I’m not sure how long this foreign feeling will last, but I will take it as it is and enjoy it while I can.

I’m not saying that I am typically a miserable person. Things happen everyday that make me happy or make me smile. But it is rare to wake up and just feel peace. Even if it’s just 10 minutes, I’ll take it. 🙂

This has made me reflect on this year. This year has been amazing. I’m not sure why I LOVE 2012 so much, but I do. Maybe I need to make myself a list of blessings I have received this year, but that may take too long. Anyway, yet another crazy rambling blog!

So I hope that whoever reads this (if anyone reads this), you too will find some happiness/contentment in this 12/12/12 day!


Catching Up…

I have not been as good as I intended when it came to this blog, so I figured what better time than the holidays to get a move on it. (I should seriously be shopping or something…)

I had the most amazing Thanksgiving! My husband and I took our daughters on a cruise to Progresso & Cozumel…BEAUTIFUL! It was the first cruise for the rest of them, but not for me (although honestly, my husband was in the Navy, so he’s kinda done one. Lol)

I had the best sleep ever and just lazed around…that is, when I wasn’t with the girls or in the casino! I even ran into an old friend from high school there…unfortunately we only recognized each other on the last night, but it was still nice to catch up. My girls made new friends, ones they hope to pen-pal, and I had the most awesome “BUTTERFLYING” shock….Colleen Hoover was on my cruise! Talk about surreal!!

I was in the casino on the first night and saw her, but thought no way, that’s NOT her, and went about my business. So my second (or third, I lose track) night, I was playing a game (much like a stupid arcade game where NO ONE wins…ever) and this woman walked over to me to ask me about the point of the game. At this point, I totally had to fan-girl-it! I looked at her…

“I’m gonna be a dork, but is your name Colleen?”

She looks at me a little scared…”Yeessss?”

“Colleen Hoover?”

“Yeesss? How do you know my name?”

ME…all fan-girl….”I’ve read your books!!”

OMG!! It was so awesome…I think I embarrassed, no I KNOW I embarrassed, my husband, but I didn’t care. I asked if my husband could take a pic of me with her and she happily obliged! However, it wasn’t til later that I looked at the pic and it was all blurry! WTBUTTERFLY!?! (Thanks honey!) So, I naturally did what any fan would do, wait. I waited and waited and hoped to see her again to get another chance at a pic. Luckily, on the last night, I saw her and asked to retake a pic and held myself a bit more together. I told her how much I loved her books, how amazingly well they are written and how all of us are eagerly awaiting her newest book “Hopeless.”

So….Thanksgiving RoCkEd!!

My last night on the cruise and I get to chat with Colleen Hoover!